Pak Lah Sobs
Fong Po Kuan has this to tell the Prime Minister:
"Our dear Prime Minister, I just want to let you know, you are not alone. I am with you. The nation is with you. We will work with you in this difficult period in your chapter of life and the struggle to make Malaysia a better country and nation for Malaysians. Be strong."
I agree with her, and wish the PM the same.
But, to be strong, it is onerous and insurmountable. Only those who had the same experience can empathise. We can try to say good things, and console the sufferer, but to no avail. Only him, and only him will understand the amount of pain and tremor within. It's hard, no matter how hard he tried. You can see it; it is in his face tho' he tries to put up with a smile and to show his resilience.
I always remembered one person - he is Justice Eusoffe Abdoolcader. Since his wife Haseenah died in 1993 after a long illness, Eusoffe had been profoundly depressed, taking out full-page advertisements of love poetry on every anniversary of her death. He finally shoots himself in Penang Jan. 11, 1996.You may say anything about him; he is right, he is wrong, he shouldn't, it's against the religion, etc, etc. But you will not understand, Only God will and God will forgive him and take care of him.
I am not drawing an anology of any sort.
I hope Pak Lah is much stronger and continuously seeks God's Guidance and support. I hope both Nori and Kamaladdin would spent more time with their dear father. Tho' all of them and the PM will be kept busy with works, somehow, human needs are paramount at this hours of distress. Nothing can be more soothing than having the children physical presence. Pak Lah had not stop visiting Mama's grave since that day she departed. You can sense it and feel it. He is going thru' a trauma, swimming his disturbing emotions in the deep deep sea of misfortune, weathering the hurricane and tsunamis that swept away his "only love" within. He needs more than mere words of support and condolences. He needs a substitute, someone who would share the half of him that was voided by the departure of Mama and someone who would act as what Mama had done for him - the standards of close-companionship and the usual mode communication and subjects of conversation. The children will have to do it; no others. Nori is trying hard, and I'm sure Kamaladdin is also doing his part. But, ... the essence of effectiveness is smokey and cloudy.
Let all Malaysians pray for divine intervention and lets be more compassionte to him. Pak Lah, you, and only you can pick up the pieces and thrive ... we can pray, but only you can decide ...
"To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die."
- Thomas Campbell, Hallowed Ground.
God Bless our Prime Minister!
2 comments:
I am sure Pak Lah is strong enough to pick up the pieces and move on but for the moment,we should be patient while he grieves.
I think he would like to have time off to grieve properly but given the circumstances and his position, he simply cant, which is sad.
Having been together for 40years, its not easy. It will take a while to get over that grief. When my late grandfather passed away suddenly (when we lest expected it), it took my grandmother, his wife of 55 years, almost 13 months to get over him. While it took me, 9 months to accept the fact.
Will continue to pray for Pak Lah & family in their time of grief that he may find strenght to continue his work and move on.
We are not our emotions. Emotions like energy, they flow through you; you feel them and then they disappear. When you try to hold them back they build up.
And death, however, does not exist in those terms. In the dawn of physical existence, men knew that death was merely a change of form. A death is just a night to your soul.
Existence is larger than life or death. Life and death are both states of existence. An identity exists whether it is in the state of life or in the state of death.
Your body is aware of the fact of its death at birth, and of its birth at its death, for all of its possibilities for action take place in the area between….so don’t be afraid to die if you are prepared!
No man or woman consciously knows for sure which day will be the last for him or her in this particular life, that each calls the present one. Mortality with its birth and death is the framework in which the soul, for now, is expressed in flesh.
Birth and death contain between them the earthly experience that you perceive as happening within a given period of time, through various seasons, and involving unique perceptions within areas of space-encountered with other human beings, all to one extent or another sharing with you events caused by the intersection of the self and time and space.
Birth and death then have their function, intensifying and focusing your attention. Life seems more dear in your terms, corporeal terms, because of the existence of death. It seems, perhaps, easier to have no conscious idea of the year or time that death might occur. Unconsciously of course each man and woman knows, and yet hides the knowledge.
The knowledge is usually hidden for many reasons, but the fact of death, personal death, is never forgotten. It seems obvious, but the full enjoyment of life would be impossible in the framework, now, of earthly reality without the knowledge of death.
Spiritually the death sentence given you is another chance at life, if you are freely able to accept life with all of its conditions and to feel its full dimensions, for that alone will rejuvenate your spiritual and physical self.
The experience that Pak Lah had gone through was significant on several levels, and let him know that the integrity of the self and the soul exists beyond the possibility of annihilation, as you yourself will continue to exist regardless of which path you choose to take-dying within two years, or living physically on for many more. In other words, you will continue to exist and to be fulfilled within that love you sensed.
In the entire fabric of your existence, this life is a brilliant, eternally unique and precious portion, but only a portion, from which you emerge with joy and understanding whether you die tomorrow or in years to come. The choice of life and death is always yours.
Life and death are but two faces of your eternal, ever changing existence, however. Feel and appreciate the joy of your own being. Many live into their nineties without ever appreciating to that extent the beauty of their being.
We had lived before, and will again, and our new life, in our terms, springs out of the old, and is growing in the old and contained within it as the seed is already contained within the flower.
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